Dr. Ricky Arenson explains why men can't find things in cupboards and other mysteries in new book
Picture this: A wife requests that her husband go and get butter from the refrigerator. "There is no butter in the fridge!" he exclaims after a brief glance around. "Yes," she says, "it's in a new package on the shelf."
"No, not here," he says after a second glance, "you must have forgotten to buy it." After briefly considering grabbing a blunt, heavy object to strike him with, his wife marches over and finds the butter in two seconds. "Look at this! It's right here!"
How is this possible? Dr. Ricky Arenson, M.D., a health and relationship expert, offers a scientific explanation in his new book titled "Women Are Superior To Men" on why males do things that drive their partners insane.
A difference in focus
"Men struggle to find things right in front of their eyes because they evolved to be protectors and hunters; they approach tasks with a single-minded focus," he explains. "Functional brain mapping using MRI equipment has shown that when men concentrate, they focus activity in one area of the brain, whereas women use their brains more diversely."
According to Dr. Arenson, most men manage their thoughts in a compartmentalised fashion, while women think more fluidly and use rapid sequencing to think of multiple things, one after the other. This physiologic difference also affects peripheral vision, with studies showing significant female superiority in this area.
"Women have been charged with the role of being mothers and primary caregivers for their families for several hundred millennia, whether by design or necessity. They need emotional intelligence and specialised skills to manage human psychology while raising children and caring for their male counterparts," he emphasises.
Dr. Arenson adds that many wives can remember their family members' whereabouts and emotional states while cooking three dishes, holding a Zoom work meeting, and assisting children with homework. Being an effective mother necessitates multidimensional focus and the ability to keep "many balls in the air" simultaneously.
He elaborates, "In contrast, in terms of evolution, hunting and fighting are solitary activities for men. It is frequently a matter of 'kill or be killed' for them; there is no time to consider whether the children's homework is due tomorrow or whether there are too many dirty dishes in the sink."
Genetics is to blame
Dr. Arenson claims in the book that men and women have similar emotional complexity and needs. Still, subtle physiological differences in the structure and function of male and female brains allow for the enhancement of different survival abilities in each gender. He hypothesised that males contribute to human survival by defending the species, whereas females contribute by nurturing future generations.
"Men have a clear and finite picture of what they are looking for because of the intensity and singularity of male brain focus. They cannot identify the correct object if what they see differs even slightly from the image in their heads. For example, they might look for the butter in its familiar blue packaging. They will not recognise butter if it is in a red box," he demonstrates.
Dr. Arenson offers this final thought:
"Technological advancements in the last century have given women far more freedom in making career and family decisions. Traditional gender roles have been superseded by modernity, so being a woman should no longer be an impediment to a successful career or professional advancement. Similarly, gender brain differences should no longer prevent men from sharing equally in child-rearing or household maintenance."
Dr. Ricky Arenson concludes that the most important focus for each couple is to ensure that both partners' needs are met.
The best-selling book "Women Are Superior To Men: The Real Secret To A Fantastic Marriage, Joyful Parenting, And Better Sex" by Dr. Ricky Arenson is now available on Amazon. Visit his official website and social media pages for more information.
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